Be Yourself and Yield Rewards
Wed ,18/02/2009“This above all: to thine own self be true,
And it must follow, as the night the day,
Thou canst not then be false to any man. “ (Hamlet, I.iii, ll 78-80)
Shakespeare wrote that at the turn of the 16th century and this week I experienced the full impact of what he wrote.
I have a client whose business has been struggling with the failing economy, like so many others. Not realizing, at first, the full weight of the impact on him, I sent him a final invoice, as normal, requesting payment in full. This is typical for me to do and I’ve never had a problem with him paying his account. All of a sudden my emails were being read but not responded to and it would take me multiple emails and voice mail messages to hear anything back and then what I heard were promises of payment that never panned out. For 3 months this went on.
Finally, last week, I wrote him again. This time, however, I put away my “business” tone and just wrote him the way I would a friend. I wrote from my heart, and I didn’t bother trying to sound “professional.” I didn’t threaten, I didn’t beg, I just communicated. I expressed to him my concern about not hearing from him and wanting to find a way for us to work out the account. I felt good when I hit the Send button because I knew I’d been sincere and hoped that I opened a channel to a person who has integrity.
A week went by without a response.
Then yesterday I received an email from him explaining that he, too, is waiting for payment from one of his clients and if he gets it he’ll send me some money. The mere fact that he took time, after a week, to write me and explain made me feel good about what I’d written. Now, knowing that he is struggling, the same way so many others are, I’m going to do what I’d want done. I am going to trust. I’m going to add no further late charges, and if he needs more work done I’ll do it.
I know it’s not supposed to be “good business practice,” and there is a risk that I’ll never get paid but I understand all too well how hard it is to make ends meet. This client has always settled his account in the past and I believe he will in the future. He also may be like me. I don’t respond well to threats or coercion but I’ll work hard to meet obligations to those who understood and helped me during trying times.
I believe, ultimately, it won’t be a stimulus package, or a recovery bill, that will bring us out of this mess we’re in but rather it will be people helping people in whatever ways they can. Those who can give money, will; those who can’t will find other ways to help ease the burden, perhaps like myself by taking small amounts over a longer time without heaping on penalties. We all want to get back to prosperity but right now maybe we have to help each other stay the course so that when the economy recovers we can then realize prosperity together.
The best way for me to do that is to give myself permission to be myself, professionally, more than to be what everyone else says a professional should be.
